Hello everyone, in my first post I would like to talk about the type of mindset I would suggest having as adults, either as parents, relatives, teachers, or friends of our ADHD children.
When it comes to educating and living with our children, my proposal is that we strongly embrace the role of explorer in a path that is strewn with challenges and surprises
instead of the role of adult experts who believe that there are only a few ways of doing things; ones that are already known, and furthermore, have to work regarless.
If we think we know what is necessary and sufficient for the education and training of our ADHD’s, we all lose. Let’s face it, this disorder still has the power to make us chronically ill, and exhausted. through daily contact with them (who can live in peace with someone who makes us repeat words many times over, or makes us raise the tone of our voice systematically after a minute or so when we talk, or makes us feel unsettled because any proposal we make is rejected… who can handle this ?). We concentrate all our energies on what we know. This is good. But not enough. Let’s explore!
Let’s get out of our routines and our way of thinking like: ‘I did everything I could’. Let’s take the time to look at our ADHD’s, and realize that what we have in front of us is one of the most challenging issues that life has placed in our way. Let us walk with them, walk towards them. Let us put leadership and commitment in this adventure, without letting any difficulties and setbacks affect us.
Only by showing them that we´re not giving up, that we´re going to try to put our best face forward throughout the difficult moments, that we´re embracing new ideas, or tricks, that we are then going to be able to change our way of speaking, of asking , and thanking … This will encourage them to behave in another way.
(I like what Mario Alonso Puig says in his book ‘Madera de Leader’: “Words may mobilize, but what is clear is that example bulldozers.).
Our children will feel more accepted and integrated in the different groups they are related with, and this will give them wings to overcome their own obstacles.
Let’s be inspiring leaders in the world of ADHD. Let us ask ourselves; is there anything that prevents us in becoming who we want to be?
It is not an easy road, of course, I know. From here, I will aspire to share with you some tricks, phrases, and mini-tips that may shed a new light in your day to day; to keep you motivated and help you to design your own destiny as parents, as educators, as friends, as adults with ADHD, for example, like myself.